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Heavy Blog

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If you were wondering whether or not I’ve noticed – I’ve noticed.  This blog is pretty heavy.  Not the sort of thing that you might try to digest without having a “tasty beverage to wash it down”.  All of the readings should be digested while putting your own life and own experiences before you to act as a sort of filter to read my experiences through.  After all, these experiences are shared and we make meaning of them together; you as the listener and me as the speaker or writer, in this case.  Together we can expect to be left somehow different than we were prior to reading/writing them.

This entry will be different.  Short even.  It’s sole purpose is to entertain.

One of the things that I found out about myself, during my training and development and receiving my certification in “Developing Leadership Through Emotional Intelligence”, that surprised me was the usefulness of my sense of humor.  Now, I’ve alway known I’m funny no matter what my wife says.  I’ve also always known that I’m pretty “deep”…one of the deepest people I’ve ever come across.  Deep also occurs as heavy.

At times when spending some time with me in an intense coaching session or even just discussing nothing at all I can leave people a little drained.  I can leave myself a little drained as well.  One of the best methods for quick rejuvenation and to move yourself back into the area of the Positive Emotional Attractor is a good laugh.

To that end, I leave you with the following “commercial” for my upcoming YouTube Television series – Survivor: Middle Bass Island.  Feel free to subscribe so you’ll be notified of new episodes, make comments (5 to 1 ratio positive to negative, please), and hopefully have a laugh.

If you prefer the facebook viewing experience, view the Survivor: Middle Bass Island page.

Being love present and experienced occurs for me as laughter.  For me the best times are laughing with my family.  Hopefully it’ll be “fun love” for you too.

Laughing Out Loud With Love,

Ed

When we meet

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Someday we may meet in person.  When we do it’s possible that I’ll introduce myself to you this way.  “Hi, my name is Ed Malinowski, I have 3 kids and an amazing wife, and I work as an organizational consultant and coach.  But what I really want you to know about me is that I just love people.  So I want you to know that you don’t have to be any particular way with me, and that I already love you.  I love you exactly the way you are and exactly the way you’re not.  And, I want you to know that I know that you love me too, whether you know it or not, and it’s ok either way.”

Who introduces themself that way?  First of all, you should read About the Author.  But if that doesn’t explain it, I’m sure there will be plenty of posts around the topic of love that will shed some light on the Why of it.  For now, just suffice it to say that even though we haven’t met I love you.

Now, not a lot of people comment on my introduction.  I don’t really know what people think about it.  Probably most of them think, somewhat secretly, “Yeah, well you don’t know me.”  I’m sure there are a fair amount of people that believe I’m fairly disingenuous.  Either that or if they have no impetus to continue to work (or play) with me, they’ll just disregard what I said and disregard me. But I swear to you that it is possible to love complete strangers and that I do it all the time.

Before we get too far down the path, I want to clearly distinguish that love and sex are very undistinguished in our society.  So no, I’m not talking about sex at all.

However, I’ve done a lot of work over the years, deep reflection, development of emotional intelligence, and reflection on what it is to be a human being and as a result I’ve gotten fairly close to a state of truth (hence truth/love/aletheia), at least for a few fleeting moments, of the very nature of reality.  And what I’ve come up with is that all there really is, the water we swim in each and every day, is love.

We spend the majority of our days blind to it and pretty much missing the point.  But that’s the reason why I’m here, to remind everybody.

This blog, is one avenue of approach.  You don’t have to believe what I say here.  All I ask is that you read it, and consider.

With Love,

Ed